I'm on the go here but have to call u on this. You came here because you were NOT getting the results you wanted and you could not accept your W having OM. You never really backed off completely and gave her a legitimate separation with boundaries that respected both of you.
I'm not judging you. This is hard to get. The advice has been pretty consistent but the implementation has been too challenging.
Now, it is clearly defined for you. But, I see you as resentful and disgruntled. Recognize that you asked for this and deal with your feelings with IC. Any pissiness on your part will be intolerable to her and I suspect that is what she is offended by and pushing away. Take the hit. See what happens. It is not over and she is paying attention. Regardless, you can grow exponentially by handling this rationally and with clear, reasonable action.
