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[RedSoxFan]

RSF, is there anything she’s done or said lately that makes you think she still wants in? She could see you two still working it out? Any slight, small, itty-bitty hint of wanting to work it out with you?
For me, my H actually filed. But his butt is ALWAYS around. He texts and calls, makes us dinner, spends every weekend with us, he always pokes and grabs me, he gives me lots of hugs, he showers with me (TMI perhaps?), he sleeps at our place a normally four out of seven nights a week, I still do his laundry, he still takes out the trash, mows the lawn, changes light bulbs, air filters, etc…..basically, he’s still taking care of me and S and still around very very much. He does not act like a man who wants a divorce. There are times he doesn’t act like a man who wants to be married either, but I think you get my point.
That’s where my hope and ability to keep fighting for this comes from. Believe me there are PLENTY of days and moments when I want to say screw it. But so far, I’m still in it.
Why are you still in it? What signs do you have, if any?

I honestly can't answer yes to that. I've been trying to do the DBing thing and maintain distance. It seems like each time I pull way back for a while she ends up coming back very negative. For a time I was spending lots of time around the house with her and kids. It was really great. All of this might just be coincidence coincidence though.

Probably the hardest challenge for me is understanding and interpreting all of the advice I get and then putting it to work. It is my responsibility to do so but I have to tell you that so much of it is at odds...different people...different recommendations.