Collaborative Divorce is a step up from Mediation. The lawyers are well aware of what the norms are for whichever financial situation your household has. The focus is the lawyers wrangling it out without a trial, the parties and the lawyers being able to negotiate and complete the settlement process. However, both lawyers have trial experience but prefer to have their clients work out a reasonable settlement rather than losing all their money in court battles.
Consider it to be talking softly but carrying a big stick, that you don't want to use. Both parties win if they're willing to commit to a settlement and are upfront with their finances.
