FIB, I dont even know what to say anymore about your wife. I mean, believe me, I have some words I could use. But, it would do no good.
I just wish for you to have peace, my friend. I wish that this could be done and you could start your new life. I wish that a light would go on in her head that would make her realize the damage she is causing your children. I wish that you would realize, really and truly, what an amazing man you are.
FIB, one day, you will have a wonderful life with someone who appreciates the person you are, who respects you and cares about you. I just know it.