my wife let the kids call me this morning,before i was able to talk to my son she grabbed the phone. she was angry because she said my brother was trying to call her.i told her he was probably trying to talk to the kids.
then she asked what day court was and if i would drive a box truck to va with all there things. i told her i didnt know if i would have time, but we could talk about it later.
she then said i needed to move on with my life ,i told her i was but i need my children in my life and they needed me. she said i aways will bein there life.
then she went into defense mode completly ...she never has been happier in her life and tried to make things work for eight years and had no plans or even a second thought about us.
it was so hard not to lose my cool. she has to somewhere know herself thats bs.
im having a really hard time today cant even work today...
got any advice or words of wisdom?
me 27 w 26 d7 s5 t17 m7 moved to tx from va 02/25/09 sold home in va and moved 03/23/09 bomb 04/16/09 w&kids in va me in tx working
Hang in there bro. My wife said once to me that she wanted us to be like Bruce Willis and Demi Moore. WTF? She said that she wants us to be like her sister and her sisters ex where they would go to there kid's brithday party and act civil. She wouldn't mind seeing me with someone else.
The week before we split she told me she couldn't bare seeing me in the same state with someone else. That was before she meet these OM.
Just be tough and man up. I know its hard because its also hard for me too.
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
i just dont see how 18 years is so easy to walk away from.
im coming to the conculsion that all women are crazy at times like this. my buddy here was going through this with his wife. they have been married 3 years. she told him she wished he could erase her from his memory all together. i gave him db book three weeks later they are back together. after 6 months apart.
wish she would have said something before we left va together,but i know for a fact she is scared of change and had every intension on renewing our vows this year.
me 27 w 26 d7 s5 t17 m7 moved to tx from va 02/25/09 sold home in va and moved 03/23/09 bomb 04/16/09 w&kids in va me in tx working
I don't think she truly believes that - she would probably be surprised to find how much it would upset her if you did have a new girlfriend. It hurt when my husband said he couldn't say anything if I started dating. But I know he's in mlc and that I should take some of the things he says with a grain of salt. He's in pain and I am an easy target for the cause of it (although I admit I made tons of mistakes as a wife.)
On my end I'm combining DB with Light his fire and combined they are showing me where I went wrong in the marriage and what a good marriage might truly look like...I see small but very positive results but who knows about the future... One day at a time!
Hang in there! Yes, us woman can be very confusing...but men are confusing to us too!
i know i mad a ton of mistakes too,but we moved here together she brought family heirlooms, i asked her one night lying in bed here ...why did she stick with me through some of the things i did earlier on....she said because she loved me and knew i would do the same.
three weeks later its over? now my family is angry with me i wont start dating as well.
bc37 thanks so much i dont get much support from anyone anymore everyone says its too late . i cant believe that
me 27 w 26 d7 s5 t17 m7 moved to tx from va 02/25/09 sold home in va and moved 03/23/09 bomb 04/16/09 w&kids in va me in tx working
Man you guys were together for a long time and young also!
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
Sounds like your family is encouraging you to date because they don't like seeing you in pain. Only you know when you're ready to date or not. What have you been doing to take care of yourself in all this? When you're going though heck and missing your kids it can seem wrong to think of your goals & dreams outside getting back together but it's important to do that! Any dreams or hobbies you've put on hold due to marriage or other reasons?
