Never ever would I think, imply or say that you are stupid and/or that I don't trust that you know what's right for you. But.. this is my take of the man I've read about for over a year.
As an outsider looking in, he keeps repeating the same behavior. The 'fake' reconciliation, the 'not getting back' to you, the avoidance, the passive/aggressive behavior, the meltdown at the individual counseling session where he finds he has issues to work out with his family of origin. How has any of that been resolved?
Lots of stuff.. very little movement.
He is consistent. Ready to blow you off when you're complacent, wanting to 'make it work' when you're done.
He is weak when it comes to decisions, commitments, communicating.
He is a constant, the father of your children. Well he made them but how often has he been with them, involved in their lives over the past 3 years?
You WILL get a letter back within the time period if you tell him it's over. If you don't, you won't. Or, the letter you receive will not contain a golden nugget of truth. Even if he promises you the world and your weight in gold, nothing matters til there's action. The only action he's had is with his long time mistress. When and if you get the opus of his journey of why's and how's won't answer your questions, won't bring resolution. It's the same excuses over and over again, nothing new.
And he's consistent with her. She has the same issues with him as you do. He's not changed. He's not different. "No, no, we shouldn't be together, Mistress. Ooops, my bad, did I really make love with you?"
I don't trust him, Maria. He knows how important family is to you, he knows your buttons and how to push them, how to keep that hope alive, how to string you along, how much you want the best for your children.
A year ago, people were urging you to lead because he was lost. He's still lost.. in himself. He'll only wake up when the door slams in his face (again). How do you lead? By kicking ass, doing what is best for you, Kalni Sunshine Maria and in turn your children. And that's not dangling on his hook of promises barely or never kept.
