I appreciate all your posts. Those adjectives are HERS. Not mine. I ofttimes still get the 'why not talk to her'...'why not ask her to..?.
Honestly, I've tried this over and over. You CANNOT TALK TO THIS WOMAN...AT ALL. Any conversation is redirected, or, should I say misdirected, in a negative way or into a full frontal attack against me.
Seriously. I have had many convo's about trying to coparent..to drop the anger...to try and work with each other...to no avail.
To 25...the 5% is directed at DB'ers, not Retrouvailler's. IMO, if you can get a spouse to go to Retrouvaille, it is one of the singular most promising things you can do to save your marriage. If you fail at Retrouvaille, it's probably 'game over'.
Finally, in further emphasis. Today should be my Friday with the kids PLUS it is a holiday that she doesn't celebrate with them. She is withholding them stating she made plans with them.
Between you all and me, honestly, I believe and, hold onto your hats, it is because tonite is the opening night of the new kids movie, "Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs". STBXW usually runs the kids to the movies on opening nites so that SHE gets them there before me. YES....
The kids should be with their family for the holiday. For the first time in awhile, I called my atty and the LG. Sadly, without anything in writing, there is very little I can do and I feel castrated. There is supposedly going to be a 3 way call between atty's today. I faxed her texts to my atty in which she calls me a bully, divisive...even tho' she's thrown off the religion, had them last Friday and, oh....forget it. Trust me, the texts leading up to this were calm requests that kids be home early to go for holiday dinner.
My sister and my buddy 'Anthony' told me to go to the school and take them out of class...again. I can't do it. It makes me the bad guy. My cousin, another D atty, told me that only makes it spill over into the school system. I agree with what she said in that this is another lesson...that I should have early on had a parenting schedule typed up and signed.
I feel powerless. This sucks.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
