Agree with the above. Trying to explain things now comes across as defending yourself and/or she will see it as an attack.

The best thing to do now is LISTEN to her. You can't make this 'all about you' right now. If you try and present 'your side of the story' it will come across negatively. In all likelihood, this is how it will come across to her.

Although time doesn't go fast enough for any of us here when it comes to wanting our marriages restored, six months is a short time since your bomb. The word patience cannot be overemphasized. We all want to 'fix this' immediately, especially being men. It can't be done. The key is to make changes within yourself and allow your wife to see them without you trying to sell her on it and without you trying to get her to see your side of it.

The couples here who are successful in making it to piecing, IMO, let go of the rope, go back to being themselves with improvements and, somewhere along the way, their wives sniff it out and slowly make their way back.

Hang in.
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;