RSF, Change the word "Testing" to "giving you a opportunity." Your wife isn't testing you she is giving you opportunities to see her feelings, help her, love (philia) her, and be a great Dad to your children.
She sent you a heartfelt, to the point, e-mail about her feelings and you ignored it. Can you see how that might make her feel invisible and that she doesn't matter. Instead of trying to counter her every move, learn to validate. You don't control her. Read her e-mails again with the mindset of a third party who is trying to understand. Then procees this thought - "I can see how you would feel that way, wife."
You might be surprised at how simple some the answers to your questions are. She tells you exactly what she wants and how she feels. Just because you don't agree with doesn't make her wrong. DB Rule # 47 - If it's not working try something else.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
