I didn't know there was any other way to eat a donut???
Two weeks! So fast! It sounds like you're ok with that though? I am feeling like I'm ready to start dating at this point b/c it's been so long for me--but I'm going to wait until the paperwork is signed. I might line up a date for that weekend though maybe... Karen
I'm ok with it at this point. I've gone on a lunch date. Not getting involved with anyone seriously until this is over with though.
I'm just focusing on my daughter at this point. W has successfully burned that bridge.
I'm getting in a last few licks legally. Subpoenaing her cell phone records. I already know what is in them.
D1 was doing well this morning. She just came up to me and laid her head on my shoulder and rested. She seemed tired, but she got motivated as soon as they brought breakfast in. She loves to eat.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
I'm doing okay. I've been checking in daily, just haven't posted anything in my thread.
Everything is sort of going as it should I suppose. W's psych evaluation was turned in to the Judge, my attorney can't have a copy but has to go to the Judge's office to review it. I can only imagine what it says - I tend to think it won't say she is a well-adjusted individual.
The only question is how damning it is.
I've been spending a lot of time with my boys, Football season is here so we've been getting involved in that. Also going to the park to toss the football with them.
Our team mascot/cheerleaders recently visited the mall we go to, and I took the kids there to see them.
I've completely dropped the rope in regards to W. I'm not anxious or dreading the approaching trial date. I'm ready for this to end. I'm through with her at this point. I'm ready to start living life for me and the kids. They are my priority over anything else.
I hope W enjoys the choices she has made in life. I have no desire to accept her back at this point. My IC told me to expect her to try and come back. I am no longer interested. Funny how that works.
I've been on a couple of "dates" which basically amount to letting kids play in the park and talking. Nothing physical/sexual or anything like that. Just more of a friendly thing.
I am still checking in here, and will continue posting and helping others with what I've learned.
I'm < 2 weeks from trial at this point.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Hi. Just wanted to send my support for your sitch and the upcoming trial. My husband has undiagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder and we separated about a month ago. I've been reading your entire thread and can relate so much to some of the things you've posted.
I will keep you, your sons, and your daughter in my prayers.
Me 39, H 41 M 17, T 21 Son, 4 Bomb 2.09, Two EAs Separated 8.4.09 My Long Story and First Postings
Hi. Just wanted to send my support for your sitch and the upcoming trial. My husband has undiagnosed Borderline Personality Disorder and we separated about a month ago. I've been reading your entire thread and can relate so much to some of the things you've posted.
I will keep you, your sons, and your daughter in my prayers.
I appreciate it. I met with my attorney and discussed the evaluation, etc. It wasn't as helpful as I'd hoped, but did show elevations in certain areas that will prove useful to custody.
I'm in a good position, not worried at all. Just ready to accept what is and what will be. I'm going to fight as hard as I can for my daughter.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
I'm in a good position, not worried at all. Just ready to accept what is and what will be. I'm going to fight as hard as I can for my daughter.
Glad to see you seem like you're in a good place. I've sad before how lucky you are to have such a cutie, but she's lucky to have a good dad like you too!!!
Trial postponed. Too many cases in front of mine. I'm looking at January 2010 now. That being said - my new attorney is going to be pushing for more time with D1, and a reasonable agreement for shared parenting/joint custody to see if W is amenable to such. He will word it to where it is entirely specific. Otherwise - we press on and fight.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
Your attorney will do this for you for NOW or for the January court date?
I hope you mean NOW, because the more they push this date out, the more time you have away from your daughter and the more time your wife has built up a routine for your daughter that will have to be changed...change can be hard for the little ones.....
Your attorney will do this for you for NOW or for the January court date?
I hope you mean NOW, because the more they push this date out, the more time you have away from your daughter and the more time your wife has built up a routine for your daughter that will have to be changed...change can be hard for the little ones.....
He is pushing for it now. That being said - W is not agreeable to anything. I asked to swap this Saturday since S8 is sick for the following Sunday and was told that it was "too hard" on D1 to see me for two days in a row.
I've got plenty of photographs that show her days with me are anything but difficult... W is just unwilling to bend unless it suits her.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
