Thank you! It was very hard for me to watch this man just walk away from everything he loved and go into this alien world that was built in his head. As long as "you take care of you" ...things work out well for you! Thats why when the big D came, I decided to go south. That was always something I wanted to do. This timeI bought my own house and I can say I did it myself. I would have not been able to do that before. I got a new outlook on life from DB....and it was me who changed me. Not for him but for myself. I love the independent woman I have become again. That was the person I lost all those years ago. There arent days that I go back into that shell...but then I emerge strong again. I didnt let XH win, I wouldnt let him self destruct me as well.
As for the OW he did move her into his apt and that lasted for 6 mos or so. (XH found out that the old ball and chain wasnt as bad as he thought she was)...I didnt need to get my nails done every week and go on trips and all the bull that this woman wanted. About a year or so he moved away cause she turned into a stalker...lol.
Treese, I let him have his D that he wanted. I let him have his life that he wanted....and he needed to see for himself that it wasnt as good as he thought it was. He was in the ILU phase/honeymoon phase....I didnt contact him at all. INfact all our friends use to call me and tell me everythnig he did. That it got to the point I had to tell them STOP! I moved on with my life. But again I couldnt have done it without what I learned from here.
Hang in there guys...its a journey sometimes long sometimes not. Mine was and it is still going on but one day the clouds will let that sunshine thru for you as well....
Anything good in life is worth waiting for! Take care of you!
H-43 W-52 M-6/21/90 LU-NIL-7/03 M/OUT- 7/03 Found out @ OW-7/03 (was involved before the move out) D- 6/23/05 (married 15 yrs- together 17 yrs)
