Thanks so much guys. Three inspiring posts.I just get so panic stricken at times.

VH I take huge courage from your statement that your boys took the news so well and that it actually helped relieve tension.

Yeah, I have to stay with me. Be me. Not the mad hag I became through the crazy time of last winter.

I often read your thread, even if I don`t always post there but you seem to be doing so well with it all too. I think DBing before separation might help us work through some of the grief bit at least before splitting up.

Cat, yes, I`m breathing! Tried to meditate last night but just couldn`t get settled enough in myself. Made up for that this morning then put on my best dress(battle gear!) and boots to get me through the day.

I`m not pushing for separation but if H wants to go I won`t stop him. Didn`t expect mediation to happen this soon as I`d been told my the mediation ppl it would take eight weeks but it is what it is. I have breathe deep and accept it.

Like that, Boat, Dignity and Honor and Grace. I`ve learnt that through DB. Not up on my high horse anymore. Not Ms Drama Queen.My dear brother is fond of saying that our job as parents is to make happy memories for our kids. I forgot that I am part of that memory bank for them. I was conscious last night of being so unpresent to them. I tried to give each of them time but my head was away with the mediation thing.

Calm. Move forward. Deep breathes. I can do this.

Funny thing is H this am was as normal as he has been in a while. Not normal, normal but just a little better.

Oh and he didn`t get the notice re mediation yet-I left that in the letterbox. Letterbox has no key attached to wall so he won`t get it unless D9 fishes it out!

Hmmm, I like my nasty streak!