If you've been left behind...how do you do cope?

[courts0818]

So...it's probably been 11 months since I last posted. And sadly, I'm still in the same miserable place. My husband stated his unhappiness 14 months ago and come October he's been out of our house for 1 year. The truth is...I have read DB, but it's been a long time ago. I've tried everything I know to do and everything I never thought I would do and I'm still here - in limbo. Letting him decide if I'll ever be good enough.

I'm not even sure why I'm posting tonight. Probably bc we were texting and he told me he doesn't feel anything for me. IDK why I'm crushed, but I am. I'm clueless as to what I should do.

I'm trying to stay strong for myself and our 3 year old daughter, but I'm breaking. It's so hard to keep love in my heart for him when I'm so angry for what he's doing to my daughter and I. And I'm so fed up with marriages being treated like some casual high school relationship. And I'm tired of this lame excuse people give about not being happy - too bad! You made a commitment, stick by it. Do EVERY last thing you can to save your marriage. You owe to yourself, your spouse, your family, your children and God.

How can you live with yourself when you run away, refuse to acknowledge the pain you cause, and won't talk about anything? Do you care about anyone but yourself?

Sorry...this is just a vent. But I feel like I could blow up.

If you are the spouse that has been left, how are you holding up? How can you do this? How long have you been waiting? How do you cope even when you are constantly being hurt?