Retrouvaille is not counseling. You and your husband talk alone in your room. The group leaders tell the stories of their marriages and the struggles they went through. Then they pose a question for the participants to answer by writing in notebooks. You and your husband are given rules for writing so that the product is not insulting to the other person. You both write in your notebooks about your feelings. Then you meet in your room and exchange notebooks and discuss what you wrote. The discussions are structured by the instructions given, but there is no moderator between you. You talk privately.
