I call her and ask whats wrong in response to her text. She leads me down this path of various major issues going on with the kids and she having a hard time is worried and cant figure out what to do. Then goes into needing coverage for the kids after school tomorrow and doesn't want them to feel like she's pushing them out the door or something. Of course I'm thinking its connected to her need to get away for the weekend. Then she starts into why am I concerned about the weekend and that she had meant to contact me earlier and time got away.
I got loud and said WTF I'm just being concerned and trying to follow. None of it made any sense.
I called her back, said I'm sorry and that I was concerned and couldn't follow. She didn't concede and felt like everything was fine and that I didn't get it. I reiterated that everything was fine and I had the kids covered after school tomorrow. Said goodnight and hung up.
This reminds me of the incident last weekend.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
What were you concerned about? Her text was very clear.
Do not look at this as a failure. Look at this as a real opportunity to see how you operate and mix the issues up.
Can you see that there was no reason to ask what is wrong?
It is time to be very practical and deal in specifics, not involve yourself in her emotions, motivations, personal business etc. You need to do this for her to get real and for your own emotional well being. Can you do it?
What were you concerned about? Her text was very clear.
Her suddenly going away and not being able to cover the kids out of left field is not typical. we're also dealing with some emotional issues with D14.
Originally Posted By: aliveandkicking
Do not look at this as a failure. Look at this as a real opportunity to see how you operate and mix the issues up.
Can you see that there was no reason to ask what is wrong?
No
Originally Posted By: aliveandkicking
It is time to be very practical and deal in specifics, not involve yourself in her emotions, motivations, personal business etc. You need to do this for her to get real and for your own emotional well being. Can you do it?
Yes. Its time to end this bullsh*t. I don't see anything positive here.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
I feel like I'm being tested in a juvenile way. Last weekend and this. Tested as to whether I'm going to inhibit her spending time with OM.
It's like she's setting things up for me to get in the way.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
Yes. Its time to end this bullsh*t. I don't see anything positive here.
Have you ever had a 2x4?
Do you want one?
People have used that term with me on the forum...no idea what it means.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
