EB I hope I have helped. It's an idea that just came to me last night. It's like - we are hurting ourselves by wanting someone to come back who is so distant and rejecting. We are then setting ourselves up for rejection and pain. It's still painful they don't want to be near us, but we choose not to step into a pond full of snapping alligators because we will certainly get bitten. No matter how much we yearn for a swim, the alligator bites are going to hurt a lot more.
I'm not planning on hanging out with my H tonight because I don't want to be disappointed. I have my plans. If he chooses to ask me to spend time with him, I'll do it only if it is nurturing for me. But if I am yearning for hugs and kisses, I'll be let down so perhaps my answer should be no at this time.
I hope you can protect yourself too. It doesn't matter if she notices. Someday, someone will. It may or may not be her. But if she isn't noticing and you want her too, again, you'll just be in pain. So do it for you. You deserve to be wanted and desired and loved.
