Sandi (and Stuck),
So true, Sandi. Great summary, great advice.
In my last IC session (on forgiveness), after much review of the sitch and my progress, I told him, "I will be alright. I will be happy again I will even be better. I know this. But I'm afraid my dear friend is headed for disillusionment, disappointment, regret and a big fall."

For similar reasons you cited to stuck.

Stuck, I'll be following your sitch more closely now that I'm back. We're in the same boat now.

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac