Well. We were dating for a few years. I am in the military part time and I was deployed for a few months. I returned for a family emergency leave for a couple of weeks during that time. When I returned to my duty station i found out she was going to have a baby. Big news to say the least. I wanted to wait till i returned to tell my family which would be another couple of months. She has held this against me saying i was ashamed to tell anyone.
We did not really live together at the time (although we did stay together a lot), but b/c she was about to have our baby when i returned I moved in with her.
When I returned from my deployment, I tried to just spend time with my family and her. I had to return to work and then had some side work that I got totally engrossed in. She says that I basically put that ahead of her and my daughter. I know that I did not spend enough time with them or show them enough how much i cared. She says it was because I did not care.
We did have a few arguments, we both began to withdraw and she started saying she was going to sell the place we lived in. I did not fight her on it. It happened so quickly, before I knew it, it was sold and we were moving out. I moved back to my house that I still had and she moved in with her mom.
I did try to talk to her some at that time, but she said she needed a couple of weeks. I gave her a couple of weeks time w/o calling her or worrying her. When I did contact her she says that proved that I did not care b/c I did not contact her. So crazy. She said at that point it is over.
Every since then she has been extremely verbally abusive and major distant. This has been about two years.
Hope this helps to explain the situation a little bit more..
