Looking For Help

[Looking_For_Help]

Hello Sara and Sandi,

Sara: You may be correct...I think it may just be 12 sessions. The advice from you ladies appear to be helping. For example, my W is now helping me plan a football weekend for me and my son to visit my alma mater (Ohio State). She called me today to let me know she was playing in a charity golf event this afternoon and that there would be a chance of her being late. The frequency with which she calls me has definitely picked up...I still don't call her all except to return her calls. She also has been talkative again this evening. She nicely added "I hope you enjoy playing golf this weekend." She's taking the kids to visit her folks at their lake-place this weekend and to catch the Gator football game (a game that she invited me to attend by the way). It may just be my imagination, but it appears that she may already be working towards saving this marriage...in her own little way. She's starting to ask questions about me instead of having conversations just about the kids. I'm not going to get excited about this, but this does appear to me as positive steps like the DR book talks about.

Sandi: You may be correct with your feelings about my W's motivation. Even if you are correct, maybe the Retro experience will change her mind about the after-sessions. This is my last resort, so the fact my W is willing to attend this program is good enough for me at this time. I'll take my chances once I'm there...I have heard nothing but success stories coming out of this program with Orich being the most recent success story. If, for any reason, the Retro experience doesn't work us, I will be filing for divorce myself...period. I just hope and pray that this won't be necessary, but I'm prepared either way.

I also want to add that my W's SUV was broken into over the weekend with her purse being stolen. I had the kids with me in Ohio...so I wonder if this event freaked her out b/c she was all alone when this happened.

From your perspectives, what do you ladies think about with what's been happening in my situation over the last 1-5 days? I wonder if I'm starting to build up positive momentum leading up to Retrovaille. I have been focusing on being "lovingly detached over the last 2.5 weeks...I wonder if this is helping my cause as well.

Thanks,
LFH