T It is hard to mot lose respect for the mlcer and in reality we can not trust a word they saey they are moody and unpredictable stay with your plan if ypu x is still spending , then chances are the money is still there take care of yourself and your kids everything is so expensive and they help out so little dent they realize we are the ones raising these kids they dont care..and it doesnt seem fair to me I guess I still have some forgiveness work to do hang in peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
T I've said many times that our sitches are scarily similar. Your H is now doing exactly as mine has been for last 12 months. We got our final court order yesterday and his manipulation of the children cost me an extra £10k.
Peace my H continued (and still does) to spend and spend even after he took a massive pay cut (seemingly voluntarily). The money isn't still there as I have seen his accounts due to being in court. The only way it will be is if he has managed to hide it somewhere and not declare it. Debt does not worry these men. They just expect thier Xs to pay for it so they don't have to suffer the consequences.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Not really much to report, ex keeps calling at least once a day. Sometimes I answer, sometimes I don't....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
He seems to be trying to convince my 15 year-old to move in with him. I will fight him to the end with this if she decides to.
Ex is very lenient with the kids since his MLC.
Kids know this. I am the strict parent.
Ex offers them a lot of freedom.
I will cross this bridge when I get to it.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11