I think so too, Kat. I wouldn't meet up with a married man. I think it's a good thing you sound like you mended fences with him, so that's a good thing though.
Kat, I do think you should try casual dating now. Just to meet and make friends not for a love connection or anything. One of my good friends recently divorced, and did a singles group in her town for 6 months or so and she said it was really good just to get out and socialize and make friends. I don't think she ever really dated any of them, but then when she met "the one" 6 months later at her work gym, I think she was really ready for that (and they're engaged to be married now). She really recommends it. I'm going to do it too December 1st!
I know you keep wanting to get me out there, I know where you are coming from. I have no problem going out as friends. I am just not wanting anything more at the moment. Some of the stuff I feel in this situation I have is new to me and don't quite know what to make of it. It will all happen as it should and I just have faith in that. It is so hard to explain, I don't even remember it being like this with ex when we first got together.
I am glad you have so much support on your end. Looks as if your H will be pushing buttons up until the divorce is final.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
About the old beaus showing up... just think of sharks smelling blood in the water.. especially if they're married. Divorced women as some of the easiest prey out there.
If someone's married, it's toodlelooville. We already know the pitfalls of what may start out innocent and then take on a life of its own.
The thing is I don't have a status listed anymore on the alt. So there hasn't been divorce talk just those that have kept up with me over the years know for sure. No one is asking. Maybe they are using their intuition?? You would think the 4 kids would keep them at bay. lol
I had a hot stone massage last night and it felt really good. The gal also uses Reiki on me and that helps too. I have been getting some intuitive thoughts regarding the guy I have a soul connection with and I needed to release some of the strain. All is good and I am feeling in a much better place today.
Thanks for stopping by, I always love to hear your thoughts.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I've always wanted to try the hot stone massage....but seeing them lay on the back like that just doesn't look like it would be as good as hand pressure.....I dont know.....I should try it....
She used them in combination with regular massage. She had them on through a cloth first and then as they cooled a tad, she laid them on my back but then also rubbed my back with them. Be careful who you get...she said some people don't check the temperature of the stones before they put them on your back because they are wearing gloves!
It was really relaxing and felt really good. I could have fallen asleep.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
My baby isn't such a baby anymore, he is 17 now. The time has flown and I know that in a blink of the eye he will have flown away. I have the comfort of his siblings and the fact that I have a few more years with them too. But there is something about your first. They have a magical way of pulling at your heart.
We will have to start visiting colleges soon though we are both pretty sure he will stick with KU. My heart pangs a bit with that, it is something we should have been doing as a family. I know that we still are a family just have a few chips and cracks but I know that you all know what I mean.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Well the birthday weekend is over.(2 birthdays within 3 days of each other!) We all survivied and thankfully I have a bit of a breather before the next one.
Had a call from an old college roomate. He didn't know about the A or the divorce. Strangely it was nice to be able to tell one of our friends what really happened as opposed to his generic, "We weren't getting along." he knew about the first affair and told me that he was trying to drop hints but that I was so in love that I never got it.
He was very supportive. Nice to know I haven't lost everyone due to his "side of the story".
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Another call from an old friend! That is too weird, but good for you! I think anybody with a brain would be supportive of you in that sitch--if they aren't, who needs em?
Thanks. Yes the friends keep popping out of the woodwork. A lot of them are just adding me as friends on FB and I am fine with that too.
I got off work early to take S14 to the eye doctor so that he can get his yearly supply of contacts. Then while the kids are off with ex I am going to see "Love Happens". I know I am such a glutton for punishment...I love romantic comedies.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
