I'm new wondering if this works...

[Energizer Bunny]

Well...there's a story for ya!

I've got nothing. I'm all thought out for the day.

One thing that I know is that this isn't a one size fits all kind of thing. I think the crux (sp) of DBing is to stop doing what doesn't work. What doesn't work for me isn't the same as what doesn't work for you.

My W felt smothered. That didn't work for her/us. I need to do a 180 from that. That may not be the right way to go for you.

I think that making your changes and living them is still key though. Pressing R talk is probably a no no still too.

How to detach without giving up? Well...don't give up. Don't forget about yourself either though. Do your best. Know it's your best. Love your husband. Know you'll be ok no matter how it turns out. You'll know you did your best.

Remember that Stockdale Paradox that you put on my page earlier?