who is this man?

[Ms Jen]

Some of H's probs are cultural. In his culture teens dont rebel, they dont ever place more importance on friends than family, they unquestionably solicit advice from revered elders and they never do cut the apron strings. So our teens rebel a little, like their friends at least as much as they like us, dont really want Hs advice (altho he will give it to them regardless) and are beginning to cut the strings and be more independent. All of this I expect and see as a normal part of growing up. My H says they're delinquent and it's my fault. H's feeling dejected and rejected by them but certainly cant verbalize it and prob isnt cognizant of it.

GAL, while good for me, may be making it worse for him.. I dont think he's ever going to reach out because he misses me since I'm not around as often. I obviously dont know how to help tho, and by GAL I'm working to ensure that I'll be okay long term. Whether he is or not I suppose.