My sitch...long but please indulge me

[pearlharbr]

Yeah, I thought you'd be singing that tune. BF & I texted his friend last night and asked how he liked the new QB now. I'm thinking the trade is looking good for Josh McDaniels.

[billclay18]

It's a long season! When you see Orton go 20 for 28 for 127 yds you'll wish you had Cutler.

[pearlharbr]

I don't care a bit about the Broncos, I just support the movement to get rid of the whiners. Cutler annoys me because he always looks stoned and is a prime example of whiny overpaid athletes.

[billclay18]

Reasons for no contact with my W…

…NC with W makes me a non-factor…I’m not part of the problem nor am I part of the solution. NC gives W time & space to reassess her decision & her life without me and:

a) it might be “out of sight, out of mind”…she’ll move forward with the D and her life…not the desired outcome, but better than the status quo
b) it might be “absence makes the heart grow fonder”…she may start to miss me, possibly begin to feel differently about me and our marriage…once again better then the status quo
c) she’ll do nothing…which at some point will lead me to put an end to all of this

…NC with W means she is no longer depending on me to do all the things I used to do for her, the girls and our household. These are now her responsibilities and taking them on:

a) will make her more self sufficient, which will be good for her self esteem…and if we ever attempt to reconcile, this would be a necessary condition
b) relieves me of them…her continued dependency on me in our situation would not have been tolerated (I am grateful she has not put me in that position)
c) may lead her to appreciate the things I did for her, the girls and our household, things she took for granted or possibly wasn’t even aware of

…NC means I won’t have to deal with any possible attempts on W’s part to be “friends”, which would only serve to ease her guilt and prolong lingering feelings (good or bad) that have no purpose if we aren’t going to be together.

…NC gives me the opportunity to do whatever I want with no accountability to anyone. It give me the chance to put my wants and needs first (behind those of my daughter of course) for the first time in years.

…Most importantly, NC removes me from the drama of my W’s unhappiness and dissatisfaction with her life. It’s quite simply not my problem or concern anymore.

[pearlharbr]

All great points!

[billclay18]

I was curious if you were going to get on me for this. It was just an exercise for myself to reinforce why NC is important...sometimes I lose perspective on the benefits of it, but it can be difficult.

How did your BF do in his leagues this weekend? I was 2-0.

How's the new TV?

[pearlharbr]

No, I figured it was an exercise to remind yourself. I know it's difficult and anything that helps is good.

BF was 2-1 in fantasy (he has Brees in two leagues). Seahawks won so it was a good day in our house. We had friends from Seattle over and now they've decided they're coming over every week to watch the game.

I have a sweet setup. Big tv in the center, new tv on the right, bedroom tv on the left. We're watching two games and the third has the red zone channel. We ran into a glitch with the new tv: it's the same model as the one we already had so the remote was controlling both of them at the same time. So we returned it and got a different brand.

I stopped by BF's office yesterday and talked to some of the guys. I told them about our setup and one just hung his head. Yes, I am awesome and all wives/GFs should be measured up to me during football season!

[billclay18]

As I've said before...he's a lucky man! Now if you can make a mean pot of chili...he should marry you on the spot!

[pearlharbr]

Hmm, I'm not a great cook. I'm a baker. He makes the chili about once a year. But I did learn how to make pasties for him.

[billclay18]

The only pasties I know of are the kind you wear, but I'm sure you mean something else.

I'm having my family over for chili and football this weekend. I make great chili! We're all in a fantasy football league together so it's fun giving each other crap about our teams. My D11 beat my BIL last weekend so she has some bragging to do.

Anything planned on your end...besides football?