Frank is right - he has no one to blame but himself for the mess and you should know that.
Writing those emails to him may actually be more beneficial to you than just making yourself unload your feelings. As you stated, a normal person reading those emails would want to commit suicide. I think those emails have added to him feeling pretty darn low right now. He may be stalling some, but more out of feeling like [censored] about himself causing the ultimate breakup of his family. It may be that his guilt could allow him to be more generous in the financial aspect of your divorce.
My mother had tremendous guilt when her affair was caught and she did not ask for any assets or support or custody because of the guilt that she was walking out on her family for the other guy.
No, no, you didnt get me guys. I didnt ask worrying he was right and I was to blame. I was being sarcastic saying "now I AM the prolem?". And he quickly said "no, no I didnt say or mean you are...".
Anyway, today I decided I will push a bit more and sound a bit more fed up than I really am since to be honest I am so busy at work, I dont think much of the sitch anyway. I sent him a message saying that "I have a lot of issues that need to be taken care of in my life and you are stalling with no aparent reason the big one for me. I know what I want and you are still confused and lost but that's not my problem anymore. I feel disrespected and a fool. I will change my attitude if cooperating isnt working".
No answer.
Work is crazy. But behind my stress and smiles, I am always a little bit sad. Not a surprise but it bothers me like a wound that is always there and you just learn to live with it. K
i know what you mean about the wound... the wound will heal slowly but surely maria. we just need to learn to stop scratching..... we will be left with a scar and hopefully it will not be too visable.
Hey M, I understand, I have one too, and despite my sitch, I realise its still down to me to heal it, but I really feel for you and I am sorry you are sad behind the smile. Its too bad things are hard at work right now and that H is being his usual non-communicative, non-expressive, hurricane of a mess self. I hope he will soon finally let the walls down to you and just act like an adult, instead of always from behind a screen of fear and indecision and paralysis. xxx
stbxH requested the "right" to tell me what the problem is at this point with a letter as he said I am doing. I asked if this will happen in this lifetime and he said immediately. K
I agree that his current status of guilt may cause him to be more generous. Smart to move quickly and capitalize on that. As it's likely to pass. You sound good. Nice to be busy, it helps keep the mind off the wound. Wonder what he has to tell you. Keep us posted. hugs
I agree with Rinse. My lawyer told me that 90 percent of the time, the earliest offers are the best ones you get and it usually goes downhill from there.
He really wants that 2nd chance with you hey (3rd?? 4th??? FIFTH!!??). I hope this time he DOES send you a letter, after all those times he said he would respond and never did.
We fly in Saturday night, I hope its still a good time to come stay with all this!?? I will phone you later !!! Love Al xxx
I experimented with a painting tonight, with a new theme I mean. I was requested to make something out of the novel The little Prince. The writer made the sketches and they are very unique and dreamy. Although I didnt feel like it I went ahead and tried to make the Prince. Hard to do with acrylic and brushed when his drawings are very "slim and elegant". Guess what? It came out FANTASTIC!!! Some nights "my hands" surprise me. I am so proud of this painting... It looks..."perfect" and so different than what I do.
