This won't work because you still don't get it.

LEAVE HER ALONE.

STOP WITH THE TEXTING.

Work on you.

Work on YOUR relationship with the kids.

Get it into your head that this will take LONG LONG time.

Nothing will be fixed in a day or even a week or even a month.

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.