It means give up fighting for the marriage and go take care of myself.
They are not mutually exclusive. They are actually one and the same. Just pace yourself. What are you gonna do? Get rabid? No, you are going to be rational and cool and take care of yourself and that might piss her off but that does not mean giving up. It means respecting her choice and giving her what she is asking for (which includes some real inherent sacrifices for her).
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I feel you but this is not over. Even if you think it is, smack down your fist and scream that it is...it is paperwork and logistics and it is a very big deal but it is not the end.
In one way, I wish H would file so I don't have to and we could just face the music and maybe someday, when the consequences have been faced fully, we can look at each other anew. Or not. There's a reason divorce is so hard. It hurts.
