I guess the hard thing I am dealing with is the fact that one of the reasons he said he left is because I am too controlling.
Sorry, but this is bull$hit wayward script. It basically translates into "I resent that you don't allow me to have my affair, unencumbered." Were there any complaints about you being too "controlling" before he got involved with this OW??
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I don't want to say he can't do something and just push him away more.
Boundaries are not about telling others what THEY can (or can't) do. They are about YOU, and what YOU are willing to (or are NOT willing to) put up with.
"I cannot stay in a marriage with a husband who is unfaithful to me" is NOT controlling. It is a boundary of personal integrity.
