need support

[awest1217]

I guess the hard thing I am dealing with is the fact that one of the reasons he said he left is because I am too controlling. He said that I made him get married and it was my decision to buy the house we are in. I don't want to say he can't do something and just push him away more. I am trying to listen and let it go right now (detach) until he realizes that it needs to end. He just keeps saying he just wants to be her friend and her husband is fine with everything so why does it bother me (of course the OW hasn't left her husband).

I am just trying to keep to being detached, living my life, and working on making me happy. I just realized today that I need to figure out who I want to be and if H does not like it then he does not like it and I can just be happy with the fact that I am me, and I tried everything to keep my marriage together.

I want to have a great marriage and know that we can have a great marriage if I can just stick it out and be patient (my weakest quality). I just have to stick to not pursuing H and moving on in case it does not come out great.