Hey, if it were easy, EVERYONE would do it, right???
Vicky, look: you're doing more right than "wrong" these days, and "wrong" is subject to interpretation anyway. I don't have as much time as i used to to spend on here, so I tend to pull out things that I think need correcting, and you shouldn't let it discourage you.
I think if you compare your recent interactions with your husband with those of a few months ago, that HE would think you've changed, and that's what counts! I just think you could make even more progress if you played the "Robx" WAS angle, that's all.