I can tell you that reading/studying 'Love Without Hurt' by Stosny is absolutely the most therapeutic thing I have done, along with the passage of time, in order to become a better man, a better father, and a better partner. I've gone to counseling, and I've done/am doing a lot of work on myself...but this book has been a gift from God for me. I was angry, resentful, and abusive (verbally and emotionally). This book has helped me understand things that I did not understand before, and it has helped me turn around.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.