I blamed about 99 percent of our separation on my W's depression. She was seeing a counselor last year. She has gained weight. She cut ties with her church. She stopped calling and going out with friends. She's very emotional -- quick to anger.
Then I started going to marriage classes on my own and realizing all of the little things I've been doing wrong over the year. I've gone through five sessions and have yet to have a moment where I said, "there, now I did that right."
I've never cheated, blown money on gambling or drugs and have always had a job and helped around the house. So why am I separated, because I didn't give her the right kind of emotional support.
So don't be so quick to chalk things up to her being depressed. Why is she depressed? Could it be little things you never knew you were doing?
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
O'dogs Rx (subject to occasional and unexplained failure):
-Fish oil (1200mg day) -Vitamin D (8000iu day) -Good sleep (same bedtime, no-all night flights) -Zen (or in western psych "Mindfulness") -Buddhism (life issues re: suffering/happiness) -Limit alcohol (Not as successful with this one but recently gave it up entirely) -Exercise: I've found short intense sessions do me better than long drawn out things; they leave me blue for a few days afterwards. I have trouble getting enough exercise when I get down and it's been getting worse the past few years. A few years ago I did an Ironman but since then it's been tougher to get out. -Talk therapy (I don't do it as often as I should).
-Meds: I've tried a few AD's. They work for a while then quit. I had one experience like you described. Too much Wellbutrin one week sent me into a huge mix of too much energy coupled with extreme sadness. Bad trip man. Currently on Cymbalta. Seems to work ok. While it completely eliminated my anxiety I still have occasional crashes.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
Thanks. IM isn't impossible, just takes a good coach. I want to do another sometime. I was signed up for one this spring but bailed in the midst of probs.
Anyway, getting back to topic, I'm not sure what my deal is but I'm not running 100% and haven't been for some time. And I don't think I'm the only one.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
Anyway, getting back to topic, I'm not sure what my deal is but I'm not running 100% and haven't been for some time. And I don't think I'm the only one.
If you are talking about physically running, I am the same way. I have lost a ton of weight since the bomb and back close to my marathon weight. But when I run, I have absolutely nothing in the tank. I am constantly thinking of my situation and can not keep anything going physically. I often just end up walking for long spurts.
