When my Husband was gone, I needed my kids to have normalcy and part of that meant that they needed to be obedient.
The kids knew that our family dynamics had changed but there was no reason for them to believe that they could get away with anything just because their Dad was away.
I never divulged anything to them about the real issues with their Dad, there was no reason to add more stress to their lives.
When they asked questions, I would tell them things on a "need to know" basis.
Jack, my kids were trained to listen to my voice.
If I tell them to stop, they stop.
If I call them by name they respond "Yes Mum".
If I am on the phone and they need my attention, they place their hand on my hip to get my attention rather then nagging and whining to me.
If they do not agree with a decision I have made, they may repectfully "appeal" by bringing me more information that may change my mind.
There is no whining allowed.
There is no disrespect allowed.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
