Actually, in the past, I always went. We've been to gamble several times since the separation.
And deep down, I felt it....I felt he wanted to go alone...and not that he didn't want to take me specifically, he wanted to go alone. His good buddy here wanted H to wait for him so the good buddy could go too. I told H how to get out of that and that just made him even happier.
As a matter of fact for my birthday he took me two hours toward where he's going tonight.....we went and had dinner at my favorite restaurant and then he said "hey we're only two hours away from gambling....." I said "Let's do it." And we went. Lost our asses, but had a ball still.
So I think I did the right thing here. Hopefull I earned some credit here. A year ago, if he wanted to do this, without me, there would have been quite the negative reaction out of me. This time, I encouraged him to go and like you said, meant it.
