WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[MrBond]

"I think me wanting her to be remorseful is more of me wanting to punish her (from what Stronger had pointed out) vs saving the marriage relationship."

There's nothing wrong with wanting true remorse from the wayward spouse. It shows that they are sorry and that they understand and are compassionate about what they did to us. Wanting revenge is punishing her.

Until they are on the other side of the fence as being the one who is betrayed, they can never understand the pain and suffering they've caused. They may show "regret" which is where they are just sorry that they were caught and that their "feelings" are/were real. With regret, they just look at the symptom without looking at the cause. They don't look inward to see what started everything in the first place.

All of us who have been cheated on deserve remorse from our wayward spouses.