Having been in & left an abusive relationship, both phsycially & emotionally... Love without hurt is the ONLY thing, that got through to my H, I've heard the same from other spouses of abusers.
Until the abuser can be compassionate with himself & those he loves.. NMMNG principals are irrelevant, IMHO.
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.