I had a bit of a run in on the phone this morning with XW. She had not responded to my email about my not wanting her to take the kids out of school for her winter break vacation so I touched base to see what was up. She still seemed persistent that she was going to go against my wishes and take the kids out of school. Emotions got the better of us and she said that she would fight against me on it. I told her that I would file a police report if she took the kids out of school in violation of the parenting plan.
So I sent her some follow up emails trying to explain my feelings about the kids missing school, how I understand her side somewhat and that it is best to not battle which would cause bad feelings later on. I also offered a compromise that we sign written agreements. One was what I am thinking about for 2 and a half years from now when my son is in the Boy Scouts and it would allow him to miss some Chinese classes for Boy Scout campouts on the weekend. If she agrees to signing that then I will sign an agreement about taking the kids out of school for vacation when the teachers say it is ok and a reasonable trade of time is done with the other parent.
I think that it is better to leverage a conflict instead of creating hostilities that may last into the future. Pick your battles carefully.
