thank you for the advice. I am not ever bringing up the other person, he does, I just listen and ask about things he did and they are with her. I agree with the getting counseling. I am seeing someone now, and have just laid down the ground work so next week I get to more. I know there are other issues stemming from my childhood (father abused mother sexually and physically then step-father abused mother emotionally). I was never abused, but because of seeing what a broken home does to the children (my step sibs) I don't want my son to have deal with it. My father passed away so I understand the difficulties of bringing two families together.
I am completely dedicated to my family, but I know that at some point he does have to change. I guess I don't know if I am taking too much of this idea to heart. I know that one person can change a relationship, but at some point the other spouse has to be willing to change too...right? I just don't know when enough is enough. I am trying to stay strong and stick with the strategy to see if it works.
