Good to hear from you! Yeah, as my situation changed, I thought I'd start a new thread. I have been following yours, although I haven't had any great insight for you lately. Your H seems to be in such a "dead" place. I think you're doing what's right for you. Although there are similarities in all our situations, it's amazing how they are different too. The thing about mine that gives me hope is that my W still seems so emotionally connected to me. She was in real pain as she packed up her stuff in the house, and this is now 8 months after she moved out. Better yet, she wanted to tell me about it, see how I felt, then share some precious memories from our history. I think if she is willing to believe we would be different now, she'll come back to me in a heartbeat.
I've been thinking just what you said. I've been showing her I can forgive her by maintaining, and even growing, our R through this whole thing. She can see I still care about her, and that I enjoy her company. I engage her in conversation, and I flirt with and tease her. Not exactly the acts of a man who feels he has been unforgivably wronged. I've consistently told her that I know I had a part in all of this, and that I blame myself too.
Hmmm... hadn't thought about calling a DB coach. Not a bad idea. I'll consider it. Thanks!
