Hugs back to you and kick up some dirt for me too!
ACJ, excellent question. I have asked myself that many times over the past couple of years. I trust my response when I am at peace with myself instead of the points where the emotional roller coaster is beating me up. At times of peace, which I am feeling pretty good right now, I know I love her for the person who was my friend for many years (about 23 years with about 18 - 20 of those being good).
I think the love I have for her is the love I have for family, not an intense animal love that is physical. Those feelings are gone...for now. I love her for being the mother of my three children. I love her for the things she used to mean when we were all together as a family.
Do I love her has a husband loves a wife? I don't think so. Could I again? I don't know. Could she love me again? I think she has to love herself (not in a narcissistic way) first before she can love anyone else.
But I do think I love her in the way that one would love a family member regardless of what they do or don't do.
Does that answer your question?
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
