I really have no illusions that a PC is going to have any positive influence on xW. His role is simply to act as an arbiter in disputes about our S's. He's supposed to just be a referee.
xW, on the other hand, has these delusions that the PC is there merely to rubber-stamp her own decisions, and fully expects him to call me to task for interfering with what she feels are her rights as a parent -- that she, the mother, just naturally makes all the decisions concerning the children and the father should just play along. Several times she has warned me that the parenting coordinator is not going to look too kindly upon a given action or decision I have made, especially when it is counter to her wishes. I say nothing in response, because it's just stupid nonsense.
And while a PC might possibly have some influence our continual disputes, helping to attenuate xW's attacks, I know that in the end, xW will not really be swayed or deterred from her path. Nothing has done so as yet, and I naturally doubt a psychologist PC is going to have any better luck. Thus I fear this is yet more money down a rathole. But perhaps with her willful behavior fully documented by an outside professional, I will have ammunition in store should she go the litigious route again. We'll see.
Dday, your ex really needs to be called to task for using your son's adopted status to deliver a psychological blow to him. That is just nasty and unfair -- like I said before, I consider that abuse. I can't believe anyone would do such a thing.
And I hear you on the OM as "daddy" thing. That one gets my goat too.
