Let me ask you a question that somebody once asked me and I found very difficult to answer:
Are you in love with your XW or the idea of her?
As I said I found it very difficult to answer that question when first asked it but eventually I came to the conclusion that I was in love with the idea of my STBXH. I do love him but I no longer think I am in love with him. This is not just semantics. There is a difference.
You may have a different opinion about how you feel about your XW but acknowledging the actuality to yourself may help you to decide whether to keep on standing or whether to move forward with your life in whatever guise that may take.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
