Sounds like to me that your W is really just confused. Her saying re wanting divorce "sometimes I do, sometimes I don't" is something I thought for a long time too.
So has H.
(Looks like he`s more definite about wanting it now though...)
She just doesn`t know what to think. So to DB properly on this, I think-and jump in all wiser DBers here-I think you should just listen, don`t judge here, show you`re listening even if what comes out of her mouth seems truly crazy. Son`t agree, or disagree. Just listen.
There`s lots of things she doesn`t like about you right now. Try to find out what they are and change them!
Don`t walk away.
Don`t beg or plead either.
Be calm.
I know your marriage isn`t loveless. You love her-otherwise you wouldn`t want her back. She doesn`t know whether she loves you or not-but she loved you in the past for sure.She has a good chance of loving you again if you play this right.
Don`t believe half of what she says(her reasons for why you married-I read that post-typical rewriting history as an MLCer does).
This is going to be a long haul. You`ve already made progress. Don`t scuper that. Hang on in there!
Make this journey about you loving YOU!Give yourself that chance to be a better person-better son, Dad, husband, friend.
