WAW Using God

[pigskin]

I don't see anger with me unless I push her buttons for my own satisfaction

What do you mean about pushing buttons?

When I am irritated I may say something intending to hurt her, like a snide remark about the OM implying she must be an idiot not to see what I see. Or complaints about say, lack of affection. Along those lines.

Granted, when I say "things are fine" around the house it means we interact in a friendly way and not at all like a couple dealing with issues. The kids have no clue about our issues. It is mentally "tolerable" but obviously not a state I want to continue in. We are going to try MC (for a couple of sessions to get an opinion since I believe it is fruitless to attempt it while an EA is going on. I just want a third party to tell HER that. If she agrees to drop the EA, I'll agree to more MC, but I'm not going to pour money down a hole)