First off-my apologies that I am posting this in more than one forum-- I want to be sure that as many people as possible see the question. Thanks
I have a question for anyone that has attended Retrouvaille-
I was talking to Sara last night and she mentioned something about 'fair fighting' and getting over past hurts being a big focus at retro.
My H and I don't really argue like that. He doesn't really throw anything in my face or vice versa. The only thing we "fight" about is how to move forward (divorce or reconcile..or keep doing limbo). The only time the disappointment and past hurts comes up is when I am trying to figure out why we can't move forward.
My parents say terrible things to each other and both of them don't want to change (do the right thing) until the other one does it first. Retro would probably be good for a couple like that.
But my H and I don't say awful things to each other. H is afraid that if we move back in together and he risks his heart, that he will end up being disappointed again. Is Retro going to help us have clarity or will it just be a disappointment because it's not addressing the right issue?
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
