My thoughts on dating is for pure reasons, that is, not to "show" my x that she can "lose" me or earn her respect. To be honest, and I am not saying this to be hurtful or harsh to her but I don't think she respects herself. If she doesn't, then it is really hard for someone to respect another person.
I can admit that I do not want her back as the person she is now because she isn't remotely wanting to deal with "us". I don't want someone who doesn't want me. Now, I am not saying I don't love her. I do. But because I do love her, it wouldn't be fair to someone else I would date since I cannot be completely available to the other person.
Right now, dating would be a bad idea for me until I can love my ex without it interfering with a different relationship. I have no idea how long that may take.
In the meantime, I enjoy my children. I like seeing them grow and become independent. I have no problems making friends and not worried in the least if I will be able to date later.
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Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
