I do understand and things were going along very well. The filing really did throw me for a loop but I think the way I handled finding out about it and when I was actually served went a long way for H. I did not freak out. I was even able to not seemed surprised. (Academy Award goes to Stronger!....then Kanye West intrupts my speech.)
But anyhoo.
We'll figure it out.
And yes, I would rather save my marriage. BUT if he REALLY wants out, then I'm no longer going to fight for this. I can now say I have done everything, now that I've asked for the extension. I wish he would consider counseling, and I do have the legal option to ask for it from the courts and would probably get it since we have a child together. But I said in an earlier post, that would be like trapping an angry bear in a very weak trap and then poking him. It would not be received well and he's flat out said "I will not participate. The judge can send me, but he can't make me participate."
I just spoke with my therapist. I'll see her next Tuesday. Always good to see her. The funny thing, my H constantly compliments her and encourages me to see her, yet he doesn't believe in therapy. Go figure.
