New beginning? Hope so, cuz I'm pretty tired

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He may not be. Or at least not all that bad. Our first crisis, I never ever would have thought that. In fact, it was when I started putting puzzle pieces together this time, realizing that I was reliving OUR past, I was hearing the same things 10 years later with some new twists (not just about us but his life in general), that it made sense.

The confusion says a lot to me though. He is obviously very uncertain of what he wants deep down. He wanted to come home, but he filed and he doesn't really know why. He acted, and is unsure of what that act really means. It has affected you deeply, that is obvious. I can't say I have a clue how it would affect me cuz that is ONE thing I haven't experienced.

You stay on my mind a lot even if I don't post to you often. You have good movement here, MLC or not, and he IS trying, but so often it just doesn't seem like it is enough for you. Don't push. Accept what he CAN give you. If it is true forward motion, it will continue and you will see more. If it isn't, you will know that too.

Whatever works for communication is what works. With my H, it is one word sentences and then a lot of time for him to process it. So who knows what is normal but each of us individually.

Stronger, you have a chance that so many of us would kill for right now. I think that is why people are fighting you so hard to see it as we see it, as your H might see it. Please please please, disregard the filing as more than what it is, a piece of paper. Being legally D might just be what he needs, might actually be what is good for both of you. I know, sounds backwards but...

I have seen people who CANNOT be married, but can be D, live together, and be totally 100% committed. One couple I know, just had their 5th wedding to each other. They will probably D again, but they are better that way. There was a discussion around here last week I think about how important that piece of paper is. To some, it makes everything really great, to others they feel like they never need it, and for the final group, it sort of changes things in a bad way.