Yes I too am having problems with the lists. It just feels so contrived instead of just being who you are right now with each other.

S-we all get boundaries, self respect, whatnot. It is ok if you really want to be done. But I don't feel like that is what you want. You are tired. Sit back and be Stronger.

Yes you need things and it would be nice if you could have them now. But he is not capable of it and trying to get him to say it, well he might agree just to shut you up, or he might just say, this is too much and F' it. Not really knowing if he wants to do either of those things.

I am not saying be a doormat. You may find that there is another OW, and that might just be the final straw for you. Or not. But trying to make it an issue before it is one is a sure way to get the result you don't want.

You mentioned something about 9 months. As long as that seems, that really isnt' that long in the life of MLC.


"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox