We all make mistakes at this. Especially in the beginning. It's ok.
Please listen to the others. Slow down.
Ok so I am going to say the Kids are number one priority right now?
That is good. One thing you are going to have to wrap your head around though, people parent differently. People in MLC, parent questionably. The LOVE is there, but it is not expressed from the point of a responsible adult most of the time. Even if they KNOW the kids should not be doing certain things, they allow it.
So I would suggest that you stop worrying what W thinks about your parenting. Personally, if D was trying to deflect the focus from what she did by playing mom against dad, well she should be grounded. I never would have asked my S 10 times to have his friends step out so we could talk. At time 2, I would have escorted them to the door. But that is me.
You can not judge her though for her parenting. Unless she is really doing major damage that is. Keep the talks to information only. This is what they did, said, whatever, this is my response. And then LISTEN. The stuff that comes out of our Spouses mouths can be very interesting and educational if we just listen.
I have found that it is important to ME to keep H informed. I just had to really let go of thinking he would do anything about it. Right now he just can't.
One step at a time.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
